1.3 Toys For Boys

It’s very easy to find prostate massagers / stimulators nowadays – they’re even sold in high street chemists and supermarkets!

There are two main types, the hands-free wearable type and the non-wearable type.

The hands-free wearable type are the most commonly used, and in my opinion, the best for learning the relaxation method. Because they are hands-free, they can be kept in very easily whilst having sex, masturbating or dancing.

Aneros is the original manufacturer of the hands-free prostate toy, and still the most famous – deservedly so in my opinion. They have a number of different styles of manual prostate toy, and also some vibrating ones.

For beginners, Aneros’ most popular toy is the manual Helix. If it’s available where you live, it is an excellent first choice.

I’ve tried a number of prostate toys, and my favourite is the Aneros Eupho because it’s small and has very flexible arms, so it can be worn for many hours without getting sore. It’s also an excellent beginner toy for this reason.

A number of other companies also make prostate massagers / stimulators and many have good reviews. There are two important safety factors to check – firstly that they have a flared base, so they cannot get sucked up inside your bum and get stuck there – this could lead to an embarrassing visit to the hospital to get the toy removed. Secondly, that they’re made of body-safe material (high quality silicone, plastic, glass or stainless steel). If they do not have both of these features, do not buy them.

Bigger toys can give stronger sensations of pressure, which many men enjoy, but you do need to be comfortable inserting them and be sensible about how long you keep them in. There should never be any pain inserting any toys, even the very biggest. If there is, your anus isn’t relaxed enough and you need to stop trying to put something in it that’s too big. If you do feel pain, stop what you’re doing immediately, re-lube your anus and the toy, and re-insert it slowly. If you still can’t fit it in, anal training sets and dilators are available, which stretch your anal sphincter slowly and make inserting larger toys much easier. If you still can’t fit it in after this, please stop trying – it is not worth injuring yourself over.

When I use toys, I mostly use manual ones because I like to be very attuned to the energy flowing around my body and in sync with the music playing. I find that vibrating prostate toys disrupt this, because they’re intense and on set vibration patterns that aren’t in sync with my body or the music. You can make them feel more in sync with your body and the music, by setting them on a constant vibration and sitting or lying on them, then moving them around inside you, but there’s still a somewhat “artificial” feeling to orgasm sessions with them. That said, if you want to feel like you are being fucked, and want intense, muscular full body orgasms, they do that very well. Just be prepared for your prostate to feel like it has taken a battering and needs a timeout for a few days afterwards.

If you do decide to buy a vibrating prostate toy, save up and get one with a remote control – they make it much easier to change the settings on them when they’re inside you.

In addition to hands-free prostate massagers / stimulators, there are also hands-free anal stimulators. These do not stimulate the prostate directly, so are only recommended for men that are experienced with full body orgasms and ideally can have full body orgasms without a toy inserted. They give a slightly more “buzzy energy” / less muscular spasming effect than prostate toys and are highly recommended for the advanced Hedonist. Some popular examples of this style are the Peridise and Tempo toys from Aneros, and the Pure Plugs from Njoy. I have the Tempo and love it – it’s especially good for sessions involving sex and dancing, and the energy orgasms discussed in Stage 2.

The non-wearable type toys are generally hand-held so are more suited to active techniques. They are often better to use with other people, although some have suction bases so they can be stuck to a wall, and some can be wedged in place easily with a pillow or blanket. There are even sex machines available, which thrust dildos in and out like a jack-hammer – they have dedicated fans but are very expensive.

The most popular of the non-wearable type toys in the prostate play community is the Njoy Pure Wand, then probably second most popular are the dildos with suction cups. There are lots of discussions about the best ways to use them in the Reddit prostate play, Aneros and gay forums.

Another note on safety – many dildos are designed for vaginal use and do not have a flared base, so please check before you buy and if in doubt, do not use them.

It has to be said, that anything inserted in the anus carries the risk of coming into contact with poo. Unfortunately, it just comes with the territory. But the risk can be minimised by planning ahead with these simple tips:

Do a poo a few hours before your session to clear out your rectum
Have a shower before your session and clean your anus / rectum
Eat a high fibre diet to keep your poos firm

Some people also use anal douches, which clean out the rectum with water, but many people, including me, don’t find them to be necessary. Another method to minimise mess is by using a sheath on the outside of the toy, which can be thrown away immediately if there’s any poo on it. Again, there’s plenty of advice on this in the Reddit prostate play and Aneros forums, but the best sources of advice for how to minimise the mess from anal play are gay websites and forums, and your gay friends. My gay friends are experts at putting things up their bottoms and have been very generous sharing advice on how to minimise “leakage”. Be warned though, if you’re straight and you ask your gay friends about this, they will find it hilarious…

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