1.2 Awakening Full Body Orgasms: The Relaxation Technique

Now that you can control your pelvic floor muscles independently and maybe can generate sexual Pleasure with them already, and you’ve felt how nice and how hot it feels to have a toy inserted, it’s time to try to awaken your full body orgasms.

Until you’ve experienced your first full body orgasm, practise alone, ideally somewhere where you won’t be disturbed for a few hours. Having someone else in the room will distract you and make it much more difficult to have the first orgasm.

Even after you’ve experienced your first full body orgasm, it is recommended to have a few more practice sessions alone to build consistency and start to incorporate a few different techniques, before involving anyone else.

There are a number of different techniques for full body orgasms in The Guide, and hopefully everyone can find one that works for them. In my opinion, the most effective and the easiest is the relaxation technique.

The detailed instructions for this technique are given in full below (5 pages!) – I hope this isn’t too overwhelming, but I wanted to provide a complete explanation of the method and the sensations you’re likely to feel as you practise it, to give as many people as possible the best chance of having their first full body orgasm. This first step is the most difficult thing to achieve in The Guide – after this, everything else should be relatively easy to achieve, especially if you complete the techniques in order.

For those that are not detail oriented and want to just try it out, the simple version of the instructions below is as follows: wait until you’re really horny → get naked → get stoned → insert toy → relax and focus on the pleasurable feelings → DO NOT STIMULATE YOUR CLITORIS OR PENIS → try to stay relaxed when the Pleasure grows or your vagina / bum spasm → full body orgasm(s).

Once you’ve had your first full body orgasm and ideally a few more for practice, you won’t need to think these instructions through anymore, everything will just become second nature like it did when you first discovered masturbation.

The detailed instructions for the relaxation method are:

Start by planning your first session.
1. You should aim to have a bedroom to yourself for a few hours without being disturbed. If you can’t get a room with a bed, a sofa or carpet on the floor should be fine.
2. It should be a day or evening when you won’t be tired or stressed from work, family or anything else. Ideally, plan on having nothing to do the next morning as well.
3. It helps to be extra horny, so if you can, try to abstain from masturbation and sex for a day or two before the session.
  1. There is no need to abstain from masturbation or sex beyond this.
Before starting the session, begin by setting the scene and by building anticipation, horniness and nervous excitement.
1. Dim the lights.
2. Put some music on. There are few different options here depending on your preferences:
  1. Relaxing music to help you let go. Binaural Beats and Schumann Resonance music is particularly popular in the prostate play community. Also check out chilled out dance music.
  2. Party music to energise you and get you feeling sexy. Most types of dance music are great for this.
  3. Your favourite songs to have sex to – hopefully they will trigger hot memories and fantasies.
3. If you like porn, have a couple of your favourite videos ready to go.
  1. Audio only works very well.
  2. Erotic stories about something you’d fantasise about are also good, particularly ones about other people’s full body orgasm experiences.
Get naked.
Take the cannabis you procured in the preparation step.
1. This step is optional but it will increase your chances of having your first full body orgasm significantly (see Section 1.5 Cannabis).
Lie on the bed and insert the sex toy.
1. Gentlemen – make sure you’re lubed up and there is no pain when you insert the toy. If there is, withdraw the toy, re-lube and insert it again slower and sexier.
2. If your toy vibrates, rotates or does anything else funky, switch it off. Only your muscles and your mental focus are needed to awaken the first full body orgasm – vibrations etc. are distracting.
The golden rule from this point until after your first full body orgasm – DO NOT STIMULATE YOUR CLITORIS OR PENIS IN ANY WAY!
1. You are trying to awaken a neural pathway which is present in your body, but that you have never used previously.
2. The clitoris / penis masturbation neural pathways are very strongly defined in your brain because you use them regularly and know the Pleasure they generate. If you give into temptation and stimulate your clitoris or penis, your brain will revert to the pathway it knows will generate Pleasure, which will overwhelm the more subtle Pleasure that is being generated in your pelvic region, thus resulting in a “normal” orgasm.
3. Furthermore, your body will start to associate the toy you have inserted, with clitoris or penis “normal” orgasms, and it will make it more difficult to have a full body orgasm.
Relax your body.
1. Breathe deeply from the diaphragm, feeling your stomach and chest expand and contract.
2. Notice the energy each breath generates and feel it extending to your arms and legs.
3. Lift your arms and legs up one by one and let them fall onto the bed to relax them. Then do the same with your head.
4. If any parts of your body are not fully relaxed by this point, focus the energy from your breathing on them until they are relaxed. Some stretching might also help release the last little bits of tension.
As the cannabis starts to take effect, pay attention to how the energy moving through your body is starting to feel more sexual, and how your body is starting to feel heavier. Maybe you feel like you’ve sunk into the bed, or are floating just above the bed.
You should be very horny and full of nervous energy from anticipation by this point, but if you need to build more sexual arousal, think of your hottest fantasy, put on some porn or start to read an erotic story.
Start to focus your attention on the sensations in your pelvic region.
1. Notice how with each deep breath inwards, as your stomach extends, your pelvic floor muscles push outwards, and with each deep breath outwards, your stomach pulls inwards and your pelvic floor muscles contract inwards.
2. Notice how this makes the toy move inside you and how it feels.
3. If nothing is happening, try a gentle contraction of your pelvic floor muscles and hold the contraction there for 20-30 seconds before relaxing.
4. Notice the sensations this creates.
When you feel Pleasure in your pelvic region, focus on it mentally and let it grow naturally.
1. Initially, the Pleasure will probably feel like a ball of sexual energy in the whole of your pelvic region.
2. Try to keep your focus on the Pleasure energy – this will keep it at the same level or make it grow.
  1. Taking your focus off the Pleasure energy will cause it to go away (this is one of the reasons why the first few times, it’s best to practise alone).
  2. Another way to make the Pleasure energy grow is by “willing” it to grow bigger or visualising it growing bigger.
3. Please note – you cannot force the Pleasure energy to grow by tensing your body or contracting your pelvic floor muscles strongly – this will cause it to dissipate.
4. As the Pleasure energy grows, observe what it does rather than try to control it.
  1. For example, it might start to pulse with your breathing or the natural movements of the toy inside you.
5. At some point, the Pleasure energy will move beyond your pelvic region, up your spine, and into your chest, arms and legs as a growing wave of energy.
  1. Stay relaxed and allow this to happen – do not tense your body.
6. When the Pleasure energy reaches your head, it will probably feel like the peak of a giant wave before it breaks, then as it moves through the top of your head it will explode like a wave breaking – a wave of pure ecstatic Pleasure – this is the “point of no return” where the climax of the full body orgasm starts.
  1. This may be accompanied by strong uncontrollable spasms in your pelvic floor, which will ripple through the rest of your body.
  2. It’s also possible that you will experience mild visuals and out of body effects during the climax. Enjoy them, they’re fun. With practice, they can become interactive.
If you lose your focus on the Pleasure energy and it dissipates, or if you contract or tense your muscles too hard and the orgasm stops before climax, don’t worry, another chance will come along soon. Just go back to Step 10 and repeat.
It is possible (and desirable) that your pelvic floor muscles could spasm uncontrollably before the Pleasure energy has moved out of your pelvic region, thus triggering a full-body orgasm (this is what happened to me during my first full body orgasm).
1. If this happens, stay relaxed, do not tense your body voluntarily or contract your pelvic floor muscles any stronger or faster – this will cause any pleasurable sensations you’re feeling to dissipate.
2. Small spasms can sometimes happen as one-offs and then the Pleasure energy goes back to the level it was previously.
3. Or a small spasm can trigger a series of rapid spasms, which grow in frequency and strength – if this happens, you have very likely gone past the threshold of arousal and are about to have a full body orgasm.
4. A full body orgasm can only climax if you let it – it cannot be forced like a “normal” orgasm.
  1. Try to stay relaxed.
  2. Do not contract your pelvic floor more strongly.
  3. Do not try to force the orgasm up through your body or your head by contracting your chest, neck, forehead or any other muscles.
  4. If you become conscious that any of your muscles are tensed, try to relax them, without losing focus on the Pleasure.
During the climax of the full body orgasm, try to stay relaxed, allow yourself to let go and let the Pleasure take control – if you feel yourself breathing deeply, moaning, rolling around on the bed etc., go with it. The more relaxed you are, the longer you can ride the climax of the orgasm and the more Pleasure you will have.
1. Ladies – please be aware that squirting is possible during the climax of the full body orgasm – if it happens, it will be very pleasurable but potentially quite messy, so lying on a towel is recommended the first few times until you know it’s something you do or don’t do.
2. Gentlemen – you might push the toy out during climax – lying on a towel should eliminate most mess from this.
After the climax of the orgasm, you’ll probably need 5-10 minutes to “come back to reality”.
1. You’ll have an overwhelmingly strong sense of euphoria, and you will probably feel very “high”.
2. You may also need some time to process what has just happened to you.
  1. Laughing and even crying happy tears are common – don’t worry about it – go with the flow.
  2. As you get more used to having full body orgasms, these experiences will likely become less common or even stop completely, so enjoy them while they last.
When you are “back to reality”, and you feel you’d like to have another full body orgasm, go back to Step 10 and repeat.
1. Now you know what a full body orgasm feels like, it will be much easier to repeat.
2. Before repeating, try to make sure as much of the tension accumulated in your body from the previous orgasm has gone.
  1. Stretching, yoga poses and dancing are all effective for this.
After you’ve had your first full body orgasm, you can now masturbate.
1. The climax of a “normal” orgasm (ejaculation for men), can initiate the climax of a full body orgasm, so both are enhanced.
  1. Sometimes, full body orgasms can be triggered by the early stages of masturbation and you’ll have to stop masturbating as they play out.
2. This does not normally stop the session continuing – you can carry on enjoying more full body orgasms, and more masturbation.
3. I normally start sessions with a full body orgasm then masturbate later in the session. It is possible to start a session with masturbation, but you need to be quite experienced to then be able to get full body orgasms afterwards.
When you’re finished the session, take the toy out and clean it (especially important for men).
If you finish the session without having had a full body orgasm, do not masturbate at the end.
1. This will only reinforce the clitoris or penis masturbation neural pathways and take you further away from having a full body orgasm.

The day after your first full body orgasm, you will probably experience some after-effects – these could include the following:

Pulsing sensations in your vagina, prostate, bum, or penis
Sensations of “electric” energy flowing around your body and potentially a “buzzing” feeling
Sense of still being “high” and feelings of euphoria
Heightened sense of connection to people, nature and animals
Feeling extra horny and a strong desire to masturbate or have sex
Strong desire to have more full body orgasms
Having a huge grin on your face for the whole day
Restlessness

None of these after-effects should alarm you in any way – they’re perfectly normal and should feel pleasurable. You have just used a neural pathway for the first time, and in a big way – your body and brain need some time to adapt to it. The after-effects will decrease naturally and should be gone after a day, maybe slightly longer for some people.

If you would like to make the after-effects go away faster, the following activities should help:

Having sex or masturbating
Exercising or doing sports, especially somewhere natural like a forest or the sea
Eating a big meal
Drinking alcoholic drinks

These activities will likely feel extra euphoric, so please plan ahead to give yourself the maximum chance to enjoy your first “day after”.

If the relaxation technique doesn’t work the first time, don’t dwell on it – try again. You hopefully still had a great experience being stoned, relaxed and experiencing a type of Pleasure you’d never paid attention to previously.

If you’re generating pleasurable feelings as described above, but not quite reaching orgasm, keep practising and you’ll get there soon.

If the relaxation technique isn’t generating any pleasurable feelings for you, it’s still worth repeating it at least 3-5 times before trying one of the other full body orgasm techniques in The Guide.

A few additional tips on awakening the first full body orgasm:

If the Pleasure energy waves rise to your chest, neck or head, but then get “stuck” or dissipate, stopping the climax of the orgasm, the most likely cause is that you’re tensing the muscles in those areas because you’re trying to force the orgasm upwards to your head. This is counterproductive – by doing this, you are actually blocking the energy from progressing upwards through your body.
1. Try to be aware which muscles you’re tensing, then try to relax whilst staying focused on the Pleasure.
2. If you’re finding it hard to stay relaxed, try some specific stretches to relax the areas which you think you’re tensing. The yoga poses “Downward Dog” and “Cobra” are particularly effective at relaxing the upper body and lower back.
3. Doing the Cobra pose, in full or in part, as the Pleasure energy wave is rising up your spine towards your head can be very effective at allowing the energy to go up to your head and trigger climax. A variation of this can also be done whilst lying on your back.
4. If your first sessions end without awakening a full body orgasm, and you have the feeling that energy is “stuck” in your chest, neck or head after the session ends, or maybe you have sensations of “electric” energy in these areas, or any anxiety because of this, you need to relax your body around the areas where the energy is getting stuck – yoga, stretching and breathing exercises should get rid of this quickly. These sensations will disappear as you relax or when you have your first full body orgasm.
5. In very rare occasions, the climax to the full body orgasm is delayed until people go to sleep or the next morning. This may be surprising at the time but it is nothing to worry about. See Pg 1 – relax, let go, let the Pleasure take control.
Moving positions on the bed may trigger the climax for some people. Here are some different positions that have been successful for other people:
1. Doggy style (on hands and knees).
2. Lying on your back with one leg straight, one leg bent.
3. Lying on your back pulling your knees up to your chest, feet in the air; this can also include stroking your bum cheeks and pulling them apart.
4. Lying on your back, knees raised, rubbing your feet slowly on the surface of the bed.
A great way to get a Pleasure wave to grow bigger is to focus on it mentally and try to get it to grow smaller in size or stop completely. Then when it’s suppressed, relax your focus, and the Pleasure wave should come back bigger and stronger than before, hopefully big enough to trigger a climax. This seems counterintuitive, but it works well.
Changing the toy might work if you’ve tried a few sessions and haven’t managed to awaken your first full body orgasm.
1. If you’re comfortable with the size you’ve already tried, try going bigger, or maybe try a toy that could put more pressure on the areas of concentrated nerve endings inside the vagina or the prostate.
2. If you’ve tried many times with a manual toy, including with cannabis, and are ready to move onto another technique, try turning on the vibrations or rotations on your toy and repeating the steps above – it could make the difference for some people.

For the record, here’s how my first time happened:

I’d read an article on a men’s magazine website about the best sex toys for men, and there were a couple of prostate massagers on the list that promised “stronger orgasms”. I’d always enjoyed the occasional “finger in the bum” during sex, so I went for a vibrating prostate massager.

I tried it twice, with the vibrations on, and masturbated both times. It felt nice, but nothing out of the ordinary – it definitely hadn’t given me “stronger orgasms”.

A couple of weeks later, I ate a cannabis brownie, which made me very horny, so I thought I’d try the toy one last time. Before I inserted it, I realised the battery was dead, so no vibrations this time. I put it in anyway and remembered that one of the other prostate massagers recommended on the website was manual, so I looked up the website of that toy to see if it had some instructions on how to use it. It did, and they included the golden rule about not stimulating your penis, which thankfully, I followed.

After around 15 minutes of being quite stoned, lying naked on my bed and reading stories about prostate orgasms, I began to notice unusual tingling sensations in my pelvic area that I’d not felt when I used the toy previously. These went away after a few minutes, so I went back to reading the stories, but then after another 5 minutes or so, they came back, and then a pulse of pink electric energy shot out from my prostate, radiating through my whole body. Ping! I couldn’t see it, but I knew it was pink. A few seconds later, another ping! Then another. Then suddenly lots of them, so close together they formed a buzzing field of pink energy that made my whole body and mind explode. After that, I vaguely remember rolling around on my bed with overwhelming sensations of Pleasure, and laughing in disbelief that my own body was capable of something like that.

“Stronger orgasms” my arse – this was a completely different experience than a “normal” orgasm and clearly none of the journalists who had written the article had ever actually had one.

I think it took me about 15 minutes to calm down and come back to reality; after I did, the sensations in my bum were still there, so I had another orgasm, just by focusing on the Pleasure. And after that another. A few attempts didn’t work because in hindsight, I was trying to force the orgasms up past my chest with muscle contractions, but over the next 2-3 hours on that first night, I think I had at least 5 big orgasms and 10 smaller ones.

My body felt weird the next day – like it was full of static energy flowing up and down my spine, in the back of my head and in my arms and legs, and a pulsing every so often in my bum. It was a nice day though, so I went to the beach for a bit of a surf, and it felt great just being in the water, and I was so smiley and happy to be there. By the time I got home again in the late afternoon, my body felt more or less normal again, maybe with a few pulses in my prostate to remind me it had awakened.

And after that, I was hooked. If you’d like to read other people’s first-time full body orgasm accounts, there are plenty on the Reddit prostate and Aneros forums, and on the internet more generally. Interestingly, there are not many first-time experience accounts from women; most descriptions of women’s full body orgasms are from women with lots of experience. Ladies – it would be nice to change that…

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