2.12 Tantric Sex

Contrary to the popular belief that Tantric sex is about having sex in acrobatic, Kama Sutra-like positions for hours on end, its actual purpose is to create a deep connection between two people, with the aim of creating altered states of consciousness and spiritual union.

Many Tantric sex techniques work alone, where “connection between two people” becomes “connection with yourself” or “knowing yourself”. Viewed this way, ever since you began the preparation steps in Section 1.1, you’ve been practising Tantric sex. In fact, every technique in The Guide can be considered to be a Tantric sex technique.

Although not all Tantric sex books and classes are explicit about it, one of the main goals of Tantric sex is to awaken full body orgasms and energetic orgasms, and most of the techniques and exercises they teach, lead to them in a stepwise and progressive way.

Obviously, if you’ve reached this point of The Guide, you’re already able to have both of these orgasm types, and can manipulate them in many different ways, so if you’re reading a Tantric sex book, you don’t need to do all the preparatory exercises in order – you can just skip to the ones which sound most fun and you should be able to do them easily.

Rather than starting exercises in the way the books suggest, have a full body or energetic orgasm first, then start the exercise you’ve chosen – the desired effects will be much stronger and the whole exercise much more pleasurable, right from the start.

Here are three of my wife’s and my favourite Tantric sex exercises (for two people):

Tantric Hand Currents
1. Both people sit down on the ground or on chairs facing one another, knees touching
  1. Synchronise breathing, either at the same time (both in / both out) or opposite timings (one in / one out)
  2. Look into each other’s eyes and allow yourselves to get lost in them – surrender to your partner’s energy
2. Hold your hands out with your right hands facing up and your left hands facing down – your right hands should be approximately 10cm below your partner’s left hands, and your left hands should be approximately 10cm above your partner’s right hands, or vice versa
3. Using the Energy Focusing technique from Section 2.6 and the Expanding Energy Beyond the Body technique from Section 2.8, create a current of energy by moving energy into your partner’s hands, then moving their hands up and down slowly, by pushing them with energy from your hands, or pulling energy from them with your hands
  1. No talking, only physical and energetic communication
  2. Stay looking into each other’s eyes
4. You can use this technique as a warm-up at the start of a session, or you could try to transfer enough energy to your partner so that they climax
Tantric Energy Massage
1. One person lies down naked and the other massages them, first physically, then energetically using the Energy Focusing technique from Section 2.6
  1. If you’re the masseur, tell your partner when you switch to energetic massaging and describe what you’re doing as you do it
2. Combine the massage with the Energy Raising technique from Section 2.7
  1. Describe what you’re doing to your partner as you do it
  2. Be creative e.g. move the energy around their body, make it stronger or weaker, infuse it with love, make it take on the form of a penis and fuck them with it etc.
3. If you’re the energy masseur, aim to make your partner climax from an energy orgasm without touching them
Yab Yum
1. One person sits cross-legged on the ground or on a chair, and the other sits on them, facing them
  1. Synchronise breathing, either at the same time (both in / both out) or opposite timings (one in / one out)
  2. Look into each other’s eyes and allow yourselves to get lost in them – surrender to your partner’s energy
2. Initiate energy orgasms with the Energy Raising technique from Section 2.7 – synchronised as much as possible
3. Create “stabilised energy” states with crowns of burning energy above your heads
4. Try to maintain the “stabilised energy” states as long as possible while kissing / touching / holding each other
5. Try to climax from the energy orgasm together
  1. Pre-agree on your visualisations before the session and try to synchronise them during climax – be creative…
  2. Try to look into each other’s eyes during climax
6. One person penetrate the other, then repeat the steps above (this step isn’t necessary if you don’t want to do it)
  1. Make love slowly, at least at first, remembering that even small movements introduce a lot of energy to the other person
7. Music is very important – let the music take over so that it sets the rhythm of the sex and directs the flow of energy between you
  1. Visualise the music or the Universe making love to both of you, and creating explosions of love energy between you
8. By this point, it should feel like you have merged with your partner
  1. It should feel like the boundaries between your bodies have dissolved, that you are breathing with one heart and one set of lungs, and that your minds have become one
9. After climaxing, stay together and allow yourselves to “come back to reality” together
  1. If you need to lie down, do it together and hold or touch each other

There are lots of other Tantric sex exercises which are phenomenal at creating sexual and spiritual connections between people, which can strengthen relationships, and increase general happiness and Pleasure. Read a Tantric sex book or search the internet for favourite Tantric sex techniques and try out any which you think sound interesting.

If you feel comfortable enough to practise with other people, join a class – it’s a great way to meet other like-minded people. As mentioned earlier though, please check that the teachers have awakened their sexual energy fully and are able to have full body and energy orgasms. And please check rigorously to make sure that there is no abuse or controlling behaviour happening, either from the teacher, the administrators or the other students.

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